Friday, 24 August 2012

my chinese valentine


i still remember last year's 七夕, forcing my 'sisters' in KL to listen to se7en's song 七夕


one year has flown by! when i was in Melbourne, a year away from home was too long, but this time i was very lucky to have found a new 'family' here! honestly i don't know what i'm gonna do when S returns to China next March.

sometimes when i think about it, everything can only be explained by 'fate'. i mean, i lived 21 years of my life without S, or N, or whoever.. and when i 'hit on' them during orientation i had no idea they would be my partners in epic conversations; or that we would go to so many places and do so much sh*t together.. and within 6 months we might have to be at different corners of the globe.

btw our newest epic convo


there is chinese saying 
百年修得同船渡,千年修得共枕眠
which is really beautiful and comforting, because even if i never see the girls for the rest of this life, i'm sure i will meet them in my next.

;;;

because i was working all day yesterday, followed by after-work class 6-9pm, we only had time to celebrate afterwards with a quick supper.

xl 生煎包!(chicken wa-tan-ho at 大块活 is super yum! kept stealing P's ;p) 

and by 'we' it's not me + boyfriend, but


people i were glued to for 3 weeks of my life!

so good to hang out again! have almost forgotten how funny P is xD

and then of course Sophy and i are both nursing sore throats but still wanted to eat pan-fried buns (when only the day before i told J i couldn't eat them as i still haven't recovered fully from that nasty, nasty bout of flu. oops)

after supper (Sophy's treat *smug*) i went to her awesome loft at UniLodge and nearly passed out from envy! it's what i always imagined a solo city dweller would live in! if i had the money i would fork out the exorbitant rent to stay there but i'm struggling to stay afloat as it is. 

it wasn't the smartest idea to tell dad to stop funding my living expenses. if anybody is comprehending this strategy as a way to gain your father's love, DON'T DO IT!!! he'll get used to it and love you less when sh*t happens and you need financial assistance, especially when your brother has just flown to USA and your mum wants to buy a new mansion.

my attempt to bribe my father has fallen a bit flat.


now i have to take time off work (no income!) and dad isn't impressed. nice.


back to work for an hour before i get ready to go try ZenQ


have already tried 贡茶 and it's really good! the foam is just to-die-for!

Tuesday, 14 August 2012

i need romance


initially i only started watching i need romance because i wanted something which i can do to cheer me up while fighting death in bed last weekend. (not that it's very cheerful. it's actually quite depressing. though every time the second male lead appears, i can actually feel my body healing.)

but gosh! it's like bloody Pringles, once you pop you can't stop. (so instead of doing my schoolwork, i'm.. )

the entire thing reminds me of my girlfriends (one group i had known in high school back home, and my sisters here.) S says, every time girls get together they must talk relationships. for me, it's like a preview of 'what my life might look like when i settle down a bit'. 

one thing which particularly interests me is how the girls all understand the uncontrollable rage one experiences when fighting with one's boyfriend.

'you just wanna vent your anger, and he just refuses to respond, and that makes you even madder!' D explained when i asked her to describe the feeling which i had never experienced before.

everybody else had similar experiences.. so of course i felt left out (in a good way, i guess.)


i paused to type crap because i'm starting to internally scream 'dump your cheating boyfriend and go out with your luscious, loaded boss already (photo above)!!!' ((wipes blood from nose.

because the stupid lead actress can't even say 'i love you' to such a perfect guy (only happens in Korean dramas, i know.). 

then i remembered another epic conversation with (who else?) my epic sister S which reminded me that i suck at certain expressions of emotions as well--

S:- so do you like him?

M:- what? er.. (i forgot what i said but i changed the subject)

S:- don't change the subject, answer me.

M:- do i have to say it out?

S:- dude, i'm not asking you to say it to him.. you can't even tell your best friend how you feel?

M:- er.. i can't! it's too embarrassing!

S:- (i could feel her rolling her eyes through the phone) ookaaay. please select from the following 3 options--

A. you like him. a lot.
B. you like him a bit.
C. you don't like him.

M:- it's not there! argh

S:- just pick one already! can't believe i'm doing this! just say ABC!

;;;

yeah i can't talk about feelings at all in real life. (maybe that contributes to the lack of screaming at boyfriends?) but thank goodness for friends (recurring theme in i need romance) who bribe, cajole and devise MCQs to help me express myself, if not i might be a walking case of emotional baggage now xD

back to i need romance

Saturday, 11 August 2012

city boys and girls 都市男女

ok because i have been studying for so long with only a half-year break in between, i have this fantasy about being an OL and going out with a city boy. (hmm actually i'm not quite certain where this came from.)

actually i also have this fantasy about a uni romance but honestly now i think i'm a bit past that phase.

while i was working back in kl, i had a friend who would bring me to his corporate +1 events.. actually he would bring me out in general. and it was quite syiok to have boring phone calls like--

'what time do you get off work?'

'i would pick you up, but traffic's a killer in your area.'

*skips negotiation bits where we try to figure out a way to limit my exposure to the horror which is the malaysian public transport system*

because it makes me feel like i have finally put the days of shameless sponging off my parents behind me. and i feel quite worldly and older than 22 when i'm being introduced to my friend's managers and their spouses.

;;;

and finally i get to recreate this dream in beautiful Sydney!

except that this friend here also has meetings to go to! which is even more fitting for my fantasy hahaha ((looks at sky and laughs

plus he wears something like a suit, which no malaysian can, because then they would die from the heat.

anyway it was quite lovely to go to (surprisingly busy) Opera House area, with the stunning nighttime view of the Bridge.. dressed in working clothes hahaha.

;;;

on a more normal tone (my friends don't get my preoccupation with really growing up), here's a share of what we watched.


Tao would love it as it's from the composers of the sound of music and the king and i.


i love dites-moi, it's very sound of music.

this is the one at the end, from the Lincoln Centre.

大推!

if you have money go watch it.

Friday, 10 August 2012

洋人与亚洲男人-约会之差

ok 其实我在澳洲生活了快 2 年没怎么与真正的洋人玩。

当然最近有我的前室友,德国的 g--


在米国也有与漂亮万人迷 v 一起合作-


厄,大约是这样。当然还有一些没照相的!

算是不多啦!

所以上周三与在米国认识的澳洲华侨出去玩,各种东西令我觉得傻眼。(这位同学是二代澳洲人,所以已彻底的白化了!)

后来与交 nz 男友的朋友讨论,才发现,这就是文化之差!(我怕人家看了马上与我抢大马的好男人!)

接送

这是基本!尤其是对想交中国/台湾女朋友的男人!(上周五与姐妹开了交流会,所以我很懂,哈哈!)

在大马,女生也会 expect reasonable 的接送。若他真的不方便,我可以搭公车,但有时会减分这样。

但洋人不是!是这里的女人很独立吗?!都会自己默默出现在约好的地点!

ok 其实我可以了解人家晚上要搭一个小时的火车回家,到家也可能是过半夜了,但连下一个基本款都没有,我还挺无言的!

报平安

平常无法送女生回家,亚洲男人都会发简讯/打电话问候一下。

洋人不会!是因为这里治安算好吗?((望天花板

aa制

这个大家都懂。但真正体会时会觉得。。你不是说喜欢我吗怎么还要我自己买单?

他们就算在示好的期间也不会全包。

好啦其实他会默默买单但我还钱他也不会回绝。但有些大马男生也这样。

以前有个大马男生教导过我,与男生出去,若他买单,这就叫约会;若 aa,这就是友谊。

所以遇到帅哥,会希望他请客。

分你我

或许洋人这么爱互不相欠是因为他们很 individualistic,习惯分你我。

s 说以前的我也这样,不爱用别人的东西。比如说去旅行,moisturizer 用完了,就算家里还有,我一定会买新的,不会暂借用朋友的。

所以洋人看到你提重物也不会主动替你拿。因为他会觉得那是你的东西。你要他替你拿,他还会觉得,‘但这是你的东西耶!’

当然还是有有风度的洋人,但基本上不必期待。(难怪上次在公车有洋人让位,朋友们都大惊小怪)

;;;

好啦发泄完了。

反正洋人干以上所有的怪事并不表示他不喜欢你,而是他们的 style 就是。。这样。

若可以接受,恭喜你!你适合与洋人交往!

反正真的觉得不能小看文化背景!会令你想不通他怎么说一套干一套。

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