recently my manager's wife had a baby.
our office sent a baby hamper.
i'd asked my director, 'if i have a baby, will i have a baby hamper?'
the answer is 'yes.'
that got me thinking, wtf. why does society still only celebrates family-oriented events?
if i announced, 'i'm not going to have a baby, i'm going to have my tubes tied.' do you think the office will send me flowers?
the more i thought about it the more ridiculous it seemed.
so over dinner i shared these thoughts with the 20-year-old baby of our household, Apes.
but, min, being a mother is a sacrifice.
what sacrifice? being a mother, like other things in life, is a choice. one actively chooses to be a parent. we are here because our parents decided they wanted a family, we didn't force them. so why are parents 'making a sacrifice'? if i have baby, i'm choosing to 'sacrifice', it's my choice.
Apes looked at me like she was getting indigestion from her own cooking then and there.
.. i haven't really thought about it like that.. you didn't say that to your parents, did you?
i'd said once that i didn't ask to be born. they took it well. ((laughs.
they probably said they didn't get a consultation before being born themselves as well, so get over it.
(and although i really wished i'd been beaten up and berated less as a child, my parents gave me everything they could, for which i am grateful.)
and maybe one day we'll have tubes hampers ;p